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Taking Care of One Another

Incredible. Animals have so much to teach us if we could only stop thinking we are that top of some ridiculous food chain that has given us the idea that we are more intelligent and better than what we see as below us.

Posted on July 22, 2014 by Keli · 0 comments Read More
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Changes

I knew 2012 would probably have some drastic changes as we break away from the old patterns and conditioning to birth a new consciousness, but I didn’t fully grasp the affect it would have on my own life specifically. Within a matter of 2 months, I resigned from my job of 10.5 years, separated from my partner of 3 years, and am traveling without a home base. I have periods where I feel stripped raw and scared shitless, then I quickly remember that all is well and that I am ok. I’m in a period of healing which means growth and understanding. I have wounds, some of them deep from the last several years, but all they are is information to learn from. I am not my wounds or the feelings that surround them.

Posted on October 17, 2012 by Keli · 0 comments Read More
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Crazy to Awareness

I just wanted to say thank you for lunch. It feels so wonderful to just enjoy you without having all these strings attached that I’ve had. It’s still something I need to work on, to not have strings within all my relationships, but for now I’m just grateful that those strings are falling away with you and I’m able to just enjoy the time I do have with you. I’m surprised really that it could have happened this quickly, but it’s really all about the growth. I’m facing the truth that I didn’t really want it the way it was and I was unhappy because I wanted it to be different. I still miss you of course and sometimes get really really sad, but I feel like the neediness of wanting more is just dropping away. I’m in full acceptance mode of what is.  I’m really able to appreciate more of who you are because the details of it all are no longer entangled with my everyday world. I’ve always wanted to love and respect all of who you are but I would find difficulty because of getting sad and disappointed by some of the very things that make you you, because they didn’t mesh with what I wanted or needed. I hope that makes sense. 

So what I’m saying is that it feels so wonderful to sit with you and talk and share and have it feel so nice. I’m able to appreciate it truly for what it is in that moment and nothing more. It’s a gift and not at all what I could have truly imagined or expected. I thought I would have all these hangups and so far they just aren’t there. Every once in awhile irrational thoughts pop into my head and it seems to be getting easier to talk through them and laugh at myself. I had one last night that really showed me how ‘crazy’ the mind can be. It just makes shit up and I realize how much in the past I would just believe it or somehow rationalize it. I can see it in others too. Ok, I’ll give you the example of the ‘crazy’ mind last night. I hope it makes you laugh, because I did. It all took place for about 30-45 sec. in the shower. 

Background – Last night I sort of wanted to go out, but wasn’t really motivated. I was going to go to the xxxxxx and just didn’t feel like it in the end. I was sort of in the space of not knowing what I wanted to do with my time. I wasn’t feeling lonely or deprived, just at a loss for not knowing what I wanted to do with my evening.  

Got your text – you are at the xxxxxx and will be leaving shortly
Crazy begins – (mind tone is in full ‘attitude’ mode)

-she’s at the xxxxxx?
-I wanted to go out!
-She doesn’t even like to go out on the weekdays
-Why is she out and I’m not?
-That’s not fair (how dare she)
-She’s hanging with xxxxx and watching xxxxx’s band (jealous)

-To myself- didn’t you decide you didn’t want to go out?
-Yes
-So did you really want to go out after all?
-No
-Doesn’t she like to go out sometimes on weekdays?
-Yes
-Does her going out have anything to do with you?
-No
-Don’t you want her to go and enjoy herself and be with her friends?
-Yes
-Then what are you upset at?
-laughing begins – nothing at all 

Then I just looked at the whole dialog and really started laughing at how ridiculous it all was. Then I was grateful that I recognized that my awareness kicked in shortly after the ‘crazy’ had begun and I started talking to myself with questions that were getting at the truth and not something irrational. I mean really, my mind was trying to get me upset that you were out and I wasn’t and that somehow this was even your fault that I was upset. CRAZY

I appreciate these things, I really do. They are my recognition examples of my growth, and continuing teaching lessons. They are palpable.

So thank you my lady. I just love you to death and I’m currently still on a high from our lunch. I’m sitting here just feeling loved and happy. 

Posted on January 28, 2011 by Keli · 0 comments Read More
words unfolding

Trying

I wanted to just relax before falling asleep and perhaps get into a self-hypnotic state. Before doing so I asked God and my Guardian Angels to help me and give me a piece of advice that would help me during a tough transition I’m going through. As I relaxed and fell deeper into my state, I found myself thanking my guides and God for all that they do for me. I was envisioning a bright light all around me and inside me filled with love. 

Then it came to me. I don’t remember how – the words were just there. 

“There is no such thing as failing, just lessons to be learned.”

What a priceless little nugget. I realized it is all about trying. Success nor failure matter. These are earthly things that can’t be taken with us. The lessons to learn in this life get carried over to the next. 

We have to just let go of fear and try. In the trying we learn and continue to move forward. 

Posted on January 11, 2011 by Keli · 0 comments Read More
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Should = Resistance

The word ‘should’ seems to cause me a lot of suffering. It goes against ‘what is’ thereby setting up a situation of resistance. It’s amazing how often this phrase is used in my everyday speech as well as those around me. I hear it in coffee house talks to management meetings.Why do we use it so much? Why do we think everything should be different than the way it is?

Dictionary.com definitions read:
1. pt. of shall.
2. (used to express condition): Were he to arrive, I should be pleased.
3. must; ought (used to indicate duty, propriety, or expediency): You should not do that.
4. would (used to make a statement less direct or blunt): I should think you would apologize.

I read these and feel blech. No thank you. If I “want” something to be different I want to work on making it so. Should is passive and resistant. It doesn’t actually move me forward in a positive way. It’s either a complaint or an act of beating myself up.

Here’s a random list of Should’s I’m going to work on diffusing from my thoughts and communications.

He shouldn’t talk to you like that.
She should be more considerate.
I should do more.
I should be more careful.
Everyone knows that’s how you should do it.
If they aren’t going to do what you want, you shouldn’t be bothered.
She should call me because …
I should do …

Learning all the things that my thoughts do to cause suffering is quite amazing. It’s amazing how these little points of terror can seemingly act like they’re helping you.

Should you no longer have me fooled. I am going to notice your presence and aak myself what really is going on. Am I fighting what is? Am I in a nonacceptance mode?

I’m grateful for self-awareness.

Posted on December 10, 2010 by Keli · 0 comments Read More